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Marriage is not honey<\/strong><\/p>\n

After attending a marriage seminar, a friend told me that she was scared of getting married.<\/p>\n

when i tried to know the reason behind the statement. she said that \u00a0the counseling and stories she heard \u00a0from experienced folks reduced her interest and expectation towards marriage.<\/p>\n

She thought that marriage was the best way to escape from the troubles \u00a0at home. But she was disappointed, getting to know that marriage is just similar to the relationship with her sibilings.<\/p>\n

The only difference lies in the fact that the environment and the individual involved are not \u00a0similar. but the arguments, conflicts, misunderstanding \u00a0and sometimes fights can never be erased. It all depends on the approach in handling them amicably.<\/p>\n

Marriage is not dating.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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This is another vital point to note before the proposal. Often times, we assume that marriage is similar to relationships. During the dating phase, our emotions seems to be much important than any other factor. We seems to make feelings our priority.<\/p>\n

That’s why we often see people who date someone they a’int compatible with. one with a questionable character, with the intention of changing him or her in the long run.<\/p>\n

They focused more on what they feel rather than what is obtainable in the future. They ended up getting married, only to discover that love alone couldn’t sustain them. And that was the begining of their marital conflict.<\/p>\n

The greatest mistake to make is to think that you can manage an individual in marriage, just the way you do in relationship while hoping they would change.<\/p>\n

Imagine spending the rest of your life in jail. no freedom, no joy, no life of your own. this is what \u00a0it feels like being with someone whose character you can’t put up with for the rest of your life. dating is an illusion, while marriage is a reality. Dating is like a pre trest that prepares you for the main exam(marriage).the main objective of dating is to ascertain wheather or not you are both compatible. It shouldn’t be just for fun, or \u00a0a time to display your affections only.<\/p>\n

Remember a time will come when emotions and sexual feelings would become less important to you because you’ve had enough of it. and now craves for peace.<\/p>\n

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marriage is not a contract.<\/strong><\/p>\n

To some folks, they just want to get married. Have their kids who would take care of them and continue their generations, in their old age. And that is it. \u00a0what about the companioniship? which ought to be the first objective of getting married. sometimes, we make plan without putting some important things into consideration. marriage is not a contract where you can easily sign up a \u00a0deal, and have it go as you wish. don’t forget that what will make your plans become a reality is your relationship with your spouse.<\/p>\n

A broken home breeds hatred, conflicts and separation. Good relationship and companionship with your spouse is what will make your dreams of having children who will take care of you in your old age successful. Because children who were \u00a0victims of a broken home \u00a0are often affected psychologically which may result in developing \u00a0hatred for one or both parent.<\/p>\n

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Marriage needs tolerance<\/strong><\/p>\n

Weather or not you want it, being provoked is one thing you should always except in marriage. It is inevitable. Your toes must be stepped on once in a while, your spouse may not always be that gentle man\/woman all the time.<\/p>\n

A times they may have mood swings either from pressures in \u00a0their work place. If you don’t possess the trait of tolerance, you may end up having unresolved conflicts at all times.<\/p>\n

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Marriage needs stability.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Marriage needs stability such as financial stability. You may not necessarily be bouyant or rich before thinking of getting married as a man. but make sure you are financially \u00a0stable .<\/p>\n

Marriage comes with lots of responsibility. And the greatest mistake is to think that love would conquer all including your financial status. Love is important but can never cure an apetite or relieve hunger. It won’t pay your bills.<\/p>\n

Love can turn soar, when frustration sets in as a result of financial incapability. before you think of proposing to a woman, make sure you have a genuine and stable source of income.<\/p>\n

Your wife to be is meant to build her future with you. but make sure you’ve gotten the raw materials and other necessary things needed for the building.<\/p>\n

She can’t build with someone who doesn’t even know the design of the house he wants to build. additionally, emotional stability is also needed.<\/p>\n

Make sure your heart and mind is prepared to face the hurdles that may come with marriage. Otherwise, you will end up becoming frustrated.<\/p>\n

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