Why some long term relationship never succeeds.?

 

 

 

Long term relationship as the name implies is usually a relationship in which both couples began a cordial friendship  with the intention of achieving a common goal in the long run.

In most cases, Such relationship usually lasts longer,  Because  It has gone beyond the usual friendship and  honey moon phase into what is expected as a life time commitment.

In Contrary to most folks assumption, long term relationship does not necessarily imply dating someone for close 3-5 years or more. However, it has more to do with with quality of the  relationship and the intention of both parties involved. So what makes a long term relationship?

Characteristics of a long term relationship.

 

 

Adjustment

 

At the beginning of every relationship, couples seems so perfect for each   other that they hardly see faults. Everything they does seems flawless in each other’s eye. There will always be pretense and putting up character in other to impress and fit in each  other’s life.   But as the relationship progresses and the honey moon phase is over. Adjustment begins. No more hiding of flaws or imperfections. You can comfortably joke with each other or fart in each other’s presence, without feeling remorseful/ embarrassed  about it and your partner won’t feel bad about it too.

Freedom of Expression.

Short term relationship is often derived by  infatuation. What do I mean by this? People in short term relationship are always scared to express their feelings towards their partner for fear of hurting them. Even if it means hiding the truth from them at the detriment of their future.

Whereas in long term relationship, reverse is usually the case. The sincere love existing in such relationship will always spur you to be honest to your partner. No matter how the truth hurts, you wouldn’t mind spilling it out, because you want the best for them.

You will always know you are in a long term relationship, when you are not scared to give your partner solution on how to get rid of their body or mouth odor  . Provided you are doing that in a polite way. You can easily tell them about their weight by recommending a good diet to keep them in check. Also the need to have a regular visit to the gymnasium.

Transparency

When adjustment begins in a relationship, honesty most times becomes inevitable.

At this stage, you are not afraid to tell your partner any secret or past especially If you are longing to take the relationship to the next level. Because it is certain that they would find out soon which might be disastrous.

Now having known some of the characteristics of a long term relationship. One may still ask, why do some long term relationship rarely succeeds?  Honestly, I’ve seen people date for so long, having some of this characteristics mentioned, yet still goes their separate ways.

Here are some reasons, And how you can make a -long-term-relationships- work.

Reasons why some  long term relationship never succeeds.

Familiarity.

Familiarity they say breeds contempt. It is human nature to value things which are less available than things which are  easily available. Here is an illustration,in our respective families, we  accord more  respect to an older individuals  who is an outsider than we give to our  older siblings.

Similarly, A lot of people begins to take their partner and relationship for granted as soon as they discover that the love is greater on their sides. They tend to relax as soon as they find out their partner is striving and putting all the effort to ensure it works out. Such relationship rarely lasts, because as time Goes on, the one striving to make it work will get tired and move on.

 

Lack of understanding. 

Sometimes is not how long people dated each other, but how well they understood each other.

Couples need more of understanding than love. When there is understanding, there will certainly be tolerance. An instance is this.  You can be in a relationship for so long, yet can’t put up with each other’s character because there is no understanding.

I have witness people date for so long, even intending to make their relationship official. But couldn’t achieve that aim because they couldn’t cope with each other’s excesses. Remember that no perfect individual exists. You might have a lovely and caring partner, but either they are temperamental or  insecure. The only factor that can secure such relationship is understanding. If you think they are worth spending the rest of your life with.

Incompatibility.

People can date for so long, yet disengage as  soon as they discover that they ain’t compatible with each other. They don’t think alike or do things alike. Their understanding and instincts tends to vary a lot. And such incompatibility often leads to constant arguments and fights.