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After break up, common mistakes you must avoid.

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After break up

Few days, weeks or months after break up is usually the most hectic and  toughest for people who are going through heartbreak.

Especially for people who are the receiving end. That phase of life is usually daunting.

You wished you could just wake up just to discover that it was a night mare, the heartache is still intense because You can feel its effects all over you.

You grew so lean because you hardly eat, you suddenly lost your appetite, you developed insomnia as a result of  so much worries and depression. You suddenly lost the sense of living as nothing excites you anymore. at that point, am very certain that you are still hopeful, anticipating and believing that they will soon change their mind and call back the relationship.immediately after break up, You always check your phone every now and then to know if they had suddenly realized that breaking up with you was the greatest mistake and decision they took.

But unfortunately, nothing of that nature seems to be happening. and that leaves you more hurting than you were. No matter how emotionally strong you are, heartbreak could be an awful feeling. Especially if you were committed in the relationship.

The more committed you are, the more you get unease when this love story becomes a history. The more committed you are, the greater your tendency of finding it difficult to let go.

heartbreak knows no individual or personality, it has the ability of making one humble and doing some crazy thing which you wouldn’t have done on a normal day

 

A male friend once bragged to me that no woman can ever break his heart. With his flirting lifestyle, he assumes that he can never fall in love, and even if peradventure he does, and it later results to heartbreak, that he would easily and pretend like nothing happened.

These were only “mere words” coming from assumption. He never realized that heartbreak actually hurts till he had an experience.

He nearly went insane. He did a lot of crazy things like attempting suicide on several occasions. Experience thought him how powerful heartbreak could be.

However, the main focus and aim of these goal is not to describe the feelings associated with heartbreak, but to outline some common mistakes people often make after break up or when trying to Survive after a break up This mistakes are the reason why majority are  are finding it hard to move on after break up

Common mistakes to avoid after break up

Constant pleas

There is absolutely nothing wrong with admitting your faults after break up.we are assuming a scenario where you were the defaulter.

You ought to apologize. When you do that, the next thing is to await for a response. is either you are forgiven or not. is either he/she accepts  you or not. Is either they return or not,is either you are given a response or ignored.  whichever seems to be the case, try as much as possible to accept it in good fate.

Don’t be over expectant, so you would not end up in disappointments. No matter how hurt you are, try as much as possible to resist the urge to plead constantly, when they have already made it clear to you that they were no more interested.

You can’t force people to love you, that will be an insane thing to do, because they will always rub it to your face. being loved out of pity is not ideal. Quit asking the questions like why?trying to find out why they suddenly changed their mind. or what you could have done to avert the situation? Sometimes, there is no reason, people can Fall out of love for several reasons which has nothing  to do with you. It could either they have lost the  Sparkor they have gotten a substitute for you.

Rebound relationship

After break up, you will have an intense urge to jump into another relationship immediately, as a result of  loneliness and boredom.

However, you ought to resist that urge. Because at this point, you  are likely  vulnerable to experience further and severe hurts. Loneliness may derive you to start seeking solace and comfort from people whose sole aim might be to ruin you by taking advantage of your weak point and condition.

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After break up

Putting your life on hold.

 

This is one common mistake a lot of folks make after break up, they allow their emotions dominate other aspects of their life. they feel helpless, hopeless and worthless and thus give up on the desire to live and find love again. in as much as heartbreak is hurtful and difficult to let go. You ought to try and overcome that thought telling you that you can never find love again. build your self esteem and confidence. don’t allow inferiority complex grip you down.

Regrets.

After break up, our battered hearts are usually filled with regrets . we regret ever knowing our ex, we regret the first day we met them, we regret accepting them into our lives. these feelings are normal. however, every relationship has two purposes, is either it leads you to the alter or makes you learn the hard way. Both are important. if it doesn’t go well, don’t regret. learn your lessons and move on. the lesson learnt will help you to manage your next relationship well. Avoid regrets at all cost. with constant regrets, you would never move on. you would remain stuck with the memories of your past relationship.

 

 

 

 

 

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green lights to your crush without looking desperate

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Giving green lights to your  Crush without looking cheap is everyone’s desire. And so you have this Cute dude  you’ve  always admired.

His awesome  looks is quite appealing. Having spoken with him on one or two occassions, you discovered that his qualities were beyond looks. in addition to his  looks,

 

He speaks and reasons smartly, he has this self confidence that often swept you off your feet.

His voice, charisma and sense of humour sends shivers down your spine . That you began to fantasize on having him as a date. Sometimes, you wished  he  would propose to you some where  in the future. You can’t get him off your mind. Bumping into him  occassionally makes your  heartbeat skips.

You wished he would notice your feelings toward him. But unfortunately, nothing of that nature seem to be happening. You want this emotions and attraction you feel toward him to be mutual, but at the same time you don’t want to appear cheap or risk being rejected.

 

I understand perfectly well, we all have been there at one point or the other.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, having a crush is normal, being scared of revealing your emotions is equally normal. An average human is   Egocentric in nature. When we are being rejected, is almost like a dent to our image and self worth.

Hence the need to be scared of  or being turned down.  And that is the major reason a lot of folks are scared of approaching their crush especially women in some parts of the country like African where it seems like a taboo to approach a man.

The thoughts and questions like, what if he doesn’t feel the same way? What if he takes me for granted?are the reason why most would prefer to conceal their feelings to letting it out. And so they would rather prefer to give green light to their crush than approach them individually.

Let’s talk about green lights

What are they?and when are they necessary?

From the colour of “green”which symbolises readiness or approval.

Green light in relationship are those signs indicating that someone of the opposite sex might be interested in you. It is a non- verbal way of expressing our feelings with the hope that the other party would get the message and reciprocate.

Sometimes, the need to start a committed relationship with someone could prompt you into giving them green lights, indicating you are interested in them. But unfortunately, a lot of people do this in a way that makes them appear cheap and desperate. thus making them feel hurt or traumatized when rejected.

Giving green lights to your crush, things you are not doing right

bumping into him/her every now and then

Your crush might be interested in you, but  overdoing some things will give them the  impression that you are desperate, hence may take you for granted.

Trying to keeps tabs on them by always showing up in the places where you are likely to meet them is a great red flag which denotes desperation.

No matter their feelings toward you, doing such will make them feel suffocated and bored. especially with folks that doesn’t joke with their space. They will feel caged already especially as they are yet to accept you.

Stalking them on every social media

There is nothing wrong in commenting on the lovely pictures of your crush, or chatting them occassionally.

What then is wrong?always checking their profile to see who commented or not, who liked their pictures or not. It feels like a police detective suspecting someone of theft by monitoring and investigating every movement they make. No one wishes to be monitored by an armed robber.

This could turn them off if they find out.  Another form of stalking is showing up in their houses or offices unannounced.

We all love our privacy and feels that our peace is being disrupted if we couldn’t get it.

Trying to reach them through a third party.

Getting a third party to talk or appeal to them is not a good way to show your interest.it denotes both desperation and act of  cowardice.

That egocentric feelings that you are too weak to approach them will always be there.

They will begin to feel so important, hence the need to take you for granted.

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What you should do instead?

Build your confidence and personality

When people have interest you, they don’t have to be intimate with you before desiring to be close to you. they will always admire you from a distance. While looking for any available means to make advances to you. Build your personality, and attach value to your life and be responsible. These are selling points that gets people recognized even without uttering any word or showing any signal.

Render assistance

One of the pratical way to express your feelings toward your crush without appearing desperate is to offer assistance to them when they need help.

Don’t do it in a way to impress them and don’t try to go beyond your limit. Just make it natural, like you will do for a friend. most especially within your capacity.

Since love is practical and entails sacrifice, they will get the message if they feel the same way.

The body language

this is a physical way to express your feelings to your crush.

However, before you consider this point, you have to be careful by first observing his own body language and ensuring he feels the same way too. otherwise your effort will be fruitless.

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secrets toward being attracted to the right partner

Getting attracted to the right partner

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Being attracted to the right partner is one of the secrets toward having a Healthy relationship . It is the basic requirement if you are seeking for a lasting relationship.

This is because the success of any relationship lies solely on the effort of the partners involved. So he/she has a greater role to play. Hence the need to choose wisely.

Who is the right partner?

Does it imply having a partner without flaws?does it imply being in a relationship with someone who is perfect in every aspects? I don’t really think so.

Having the right partner all depends on our individual preferences in a relationship. We all have our choice of partners, we all have that quality we admire in an ideal partner. It could be their character, their parsonalities and so.

Your desire in a partner might be less important to another’s desire and vice versa. It doesn’t erase the fact that there might  be misunderstandings, arguments or conflicts occassionally. But how both partners reacts to this indifferences determines if they are truly right for each other.

Having known this, let us look at some signs indicating that he/she might be the right one.

Three Signs to know if he/she is the right one for you.

Emotional compatibility

Admiring someone from a distance  does not make them the right one for you. What indicates that they may be the right one for you is when this chemistry and bond is mutual and also felt within them too.

The scenario is just like putting on your friend’s cloth. From all indications, it fits you better, it brought out your curves at their  right places.

But then you already know that  the cloth doesn’t belong to you, despite its good  looks on you.

And the owner wouldn’t give you an access to it either. you are only left with the admiration, without having the ownership right. This is what it feels like admiring someone who does not recognize you are doing so, and does not feel the same.

Acceptance

A right Partner is the one  who would accept you totally without giving you any conditions or ultimatum. He/she accepts you for who you.they accept you because they have Seen you as that special one they desire to spend the rest of their life with. Even without informing you, they already have a future plans with you, while awaiting for the right time to make their intentions known.

on the contrary, when the intention is all about what he/she stands to benefit from you. Just know they might not be the right one.

Such cases are usually seen when a man  tries to impress a lady who has no feelings for him. but only relates with him solely for the material benefits he gets.they don’t call except they are in dire  need of your assistance.  I call such relationship “parastic relationship”. and not really healthy for you.

The best way to ascertain the right partner is to watch how he/she treats  you. Are they good to you often?do they accept you at all times? or do they give you preferential treatment only at their  convenience.

 

Respect

Respect is a great sign indicating that someone is right for you. Most times, respet is earned when the giver finds the receiver worthy enough to receive such from him or her.

Contrary to our belief, respect does not necessarily  have to come only with age or qualification. It comes when we truly appreciate the people around us.  Your true partner will always respect you in every aspect. This includes your decision, value and principle. they wouldn’t like to lure you into doing things against your wish no matter the urge.

Having known some of the signs that indicates that one may truly be right for you. The next question should be, how can you get acquainted to that right one? Is it actually possible to make your path cross? Let us find out.

Ways to get Attracted to the right partner.

Be the right one.

Everyone desires to Approach or be approached by that right one.

This Shows  that you are not the only one in the search. It is a survival of the fittest.

But what will give you an edge or make you beat others having the same interest as you is making yourself desirable too.

Be who you wish to attract. You don’t have to be desperate about it, you don’t have to be needy. all you have to do is possess the right attitude, and someone who shares similar motive might be interested in you.

Work on your flaws.

Don’t leverage on the popular belief or assumption that people should love you for who you are.

while this may be true, it is still necessary that you avail yourself the opportunity of working on your flaws. You don’t really have to be perfect, just try as much as possible to work on your weak points. Don’t just relax or feel is normal to have them. As far as human being are concerned, there is always a limit to what some people can endure.

They might accept you for who you are, but somewhere along the line, they may jilt you after discovering that they can’t  condone your attitude any longer. don’t be misinformed, nobody likes a flirt, nobody loves man/woman that has anger issues.

Nobody loves a nag, nobody loves  a sturbbon woman or dude. we only try to manage this traits because of the love and respect we have for our partner. but even amidst of managing them, one can decide to give up, if they are not willing to change for better.hence the need to work on your flaws.

Be at the right place

Your interest determines your result and your result depends solely on your attitude towards getting it. you can’t be seeking for a way to grow your income or business among people who had never ventured into any business. it is an error. similarly, there are some  places that are not suitable to find a right partner. such kind of places might give you the opposite of what you are searching for.

An example is trying to find a responsible man  in a bar where people drink themselves to stupor. You can’t get what you didn’t order for. that is  why is good to always narrow your search in   the right direction .this tips can equally be helpful to you,if you are also seeking for the answer to the question.  How to get a life partner.?

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Is this love or infatuation?

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Love or infatuation?this question seems not to get out from your mind. You’ve probably heard a lot about these two words, but yet you still finds it difficult to  differentiate between both.

You are not alone in this, as so  many individuals  are in similar situations, still confused and skeptical as you are.

The word “love has become the most common used word today.

 

 

It is not amazing  knowing that teenagers and adolescents  also use this word “love” whenever there is an attraction between the opposite sex.

But then is it really love or infatuation? Can this type of feelings be equated to love? Before i proceed, i will like to highlight some of the similarities of love and infatuation. The reason why these feelings are often mixed together.

Similarities between love and Infatuation

Love or infatuation

Both are emotional feelings.

Wheather it is love or infatuation, whichever one you chose to call it, one remarkable  thing they have in common is that both has to do with desires and interest. the way we feel towards a member of the opposite sex. This desire to be with them is what often gives rise to either the love we have for them or the lust we feel for them.

Every relationship began with a desire. As human, every activity we engage in this life, first comes with desire or interest.  We  desire to embark on a journey before doing so, we desire to start up a particular business before doing so.

So relationship is equally not an exception. You don’t just meet someone  today, and all of a sudden,you are already dating them without having the desire to.

This desire shows that we were not compelled to have this feelings for them.

And so the desire could have a  varieties of meanings such as having an interest to start up a relationship with the intention of getting married in the future, the desire to be close to each other as friends or the desire to benefit from each other either materially or sexually. Other wise called (friends with benefits)

Both comes with An attraction

Every Emotions  or feelings comes with attraction.  Before you desire to be with someone, there is always something about them that prompted that desire.

It could be their charisma,intelligence, sense of humour, loyalty or physical attributes like height, beauty, stature and body shapes. And this feelings could either be derived from love or infatuation.

A lot of folks used to have this belief that attraction comes only when one is infatuated. But reverse the case, attraction can occur in both ways. Either physical attritubutes or other attributes.

Having know the similaririties between love and infatuation, is time to clear your doubt by understanding the difference between both in other to know your stand in a relationship.

 

Infatuation is spontaneous, love is gradual.

One of the ways to know if it is love or infatuation is to observe  the relationship and how it all began.  Being attracted to a member of the opposite sex is not wrong. Professing your love to someone you met on a first day is equally not wrong. what then is wrong? it is simply assuming you have fallen in love  already  with someone you just met.

Especially when you barely know them. You can feel the spark. But that alone is not qualified to be   called Love. A lot of relationship ended barely few months it began because everything happened so quick.

The feelings and emotions were the priority of such relationship, there was no time of getting to know each other.

And before you knew what has happened, everything just ended within a twinkle of an eye. and both went their separate ways because some where along the line, they discovered that apart from the emotional bond and chemistry, they practically knew nothing else about each other.

They discovered that they were not compatible in any aspect. On the contrary, true love is patient. There is this desire to know more about him/her. Aside the chemistry and emotions.

Attraction usually comes first.

 

Remember we mentioned attraction as one of the common features in love and infatuation.

There is nothing wrong being attracted to someone you love. But when attraction comes first before every other thing,especially physical attraction, then it might be termed infatuation.

You know is infatuation when there is no plans to spend the future with you,  their only interest and priority is usually in taking advantage of that gorgeous body and shape .this explains a lot why most Men withdraw after the chase.

Love is realistic and practical, infatuation is obsessive

This is strong factor in determining if it is love or infatuation?i can’t do without you, i will loose my breathe if we ever part ways, my life will come to an end without your presence in it. Am very certain you’ve heard people use this line of words on regular basis. this is a sign of Obsession.

Often times, they are not real. Such kind of feelings comes with immediate urge to satisfy the material lust, hence the profession of unrealistic words and promises.  Sometimes, it feels like your world would crash without their presence in it. You spend your whole time fantasizing about your relationship with certain pictures on your mind on how you wish it to be.

These are obsession. Obsession makes us feel like we are going insane when attracted to someone. Most times, people who utter this obsessive words are not real. They only say it to entice you. Or as a result of the butterfly feelings they were having at that moment.

A lot of them will flee when is time to make the real sacrifice. On the contrary, true love is real, it doesn’t really need to make unrealistic promises. But when is time to make sacrifices, it does that without being compelled to.

To know if it is love or infatuation, watch their actions. The way they treat you in a relationship.their action speaks more than their spoken words. infatuation is more of words, while love is more of actions.

 

 

 

 

 

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Having multiple partners. Wrong or good?

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Having multiple partners is becoming a norm and trend in our society today.with a lot of factors being considered as the reason why so many folks prefers having a multiple dates over one faithful partner.

Several reasons why people prefer to date multiple partners.

The fear of disappointment

the fear of being left with a broken heart in the course of being committed to one partner.

Ever heard of the saying “do not put all your eggs in one basket?this describes the degree of fear  associated with single dating. It is the fear of uncertainity. But viewing this from the other angle, this particular type of fear is not limted to dating alone, but to every other aspects of life.

It is not out of bound to feel a bit of insecurity when in a relationship, it is  natural to feel skeptical  about a relationship. especially when there is no form of assurance or closure from the other concerning the fate of the relationship. Hence the thought of having a multiple partners.

Past dating experiences

This is the most common reason why people double date.a lot of people are struggling so hard to move on from their past.

These group of people were  jilted, betrayed and taken for granted by the one they once took as a priority.

They are battling everyday to let go of their past, but the emotional trauma  keeps hunting them.

 

They can’t keep their minds off it.  They have totally given up on love as a result of the disappointment by their Ex-fiancee, loosing other potential suitors for the sake of their relationship and yet being disappointed at the end, showing love but not getting it in return, being cheated on couple of times, Such emotional trauma has made them develop a wrong mindset about love and relationship.

In such that they began doubting its existence. They now see love as a thorn in the flesh.

These group of people are the one who usually use the statement. “All men are the same. “All women are the same.

Some had resolved not to be committed to any man or woman again.

But rather avenge their broken heart by having multiple partners. And ironically, one out of this partner might truly be committed to them. But unfortunately, they became a victim of something they knew nothing about.

Cheating habit

Cheating has undoubtedly turned to a habit to some people. Unfortunately, People who cheat a lot often finds it difficult to be committed to one partner.

Often times, this habit usually begins when single and proceeds even when  married. because it has become a part of them. Such people see cheating as fun. No matter how good  their partner is, they can never be satisfied.

Ignorance of one’s desire

Some people have multiple partners not really because they desire to but because they simply don’t know  what they desire in an individual.

Such individuals  can be in a relationship with someone who takes care of them. And yet, easily falls for another who tries to persuade them with a sugar coated mouth.   This group of people easily fall cheap to lies and deciet because they don’t understand what it means to be in a relationship, and what they desire to achieve at the end. You see them in every dating forum always  seeking for advice .

They often use the phrase like “please advise me,,i am in love with two men.”

Having know several reasons  why people chose to have multiple partners, the next question is, is it really  good or wrong idea? Is it the best avenue to  revenge after undergoing through series of heartbreak and betrayals? is it the best decision to make,in other to avoid future uncertainities or disappointment?the simple answer is No!!! having multiple partners   is not the right choice and can never be, irrespective of your reasons.  It comes with a lot of emotional and pyschological effects.

 

Effects of having multiple partners.

It leads to Promiscuity.

You can’t possibly have multiple partners without having to lead a promiscious lifestyle.

Promiscuity is one of the characteristic of people engaging in multiple affairs. They indulge in all form of immoral behaviours, such as illicit sex, excessive intake of contraceptive pills, abortions e.t.c. thereby endangering their lives and future with sexually transmitted diseases. Multiple affairs will be a wrong decision for singles who had chosen to remain Celibate till marriage.

Loss of opportunity

no matter the degree of hurt or betrayal you might have experienced in the past, engaging in multiple affairs with the intention of getting avenge is not the best decision.

This is because you really don’t know who actually took you serious and have decided to show you genuine love.

And by having multiple partners, you are  ruining that chances. Just like other aspects of life, the future is unpredictable. you really don’t know  that business, skills or career that has been destined to elevate you .which implies that you have to be consistent at all times. Similarly,  Don’t give upon love yet, it may find you sooner than expected.

Don’t allow a past experience change your good heart. you are likely to meet some one you are compatible with soon.

It can affect one’s marriage

Remember habit is not formed in a day, it begins gradually, then proceeds to an advanced stage.

People who cheat on their spouse didn’t just begin in marriage. it all started when they were single. They cultivated that habit,and it grew with them.  they were having multiple partners with the wrong assumption that they were having fun.

As soon as they found someone with their desirable quality, they decided to settle down. But unfortunately, discovered that they still couldn’t quit cheating on their spouse. A lot of them are not happy with such lifestyle, but they are finding it difficult to quit.

And thus may affect their marriage.Don’t engage in multiple affairs with the intention of quitting when you get married. Most times, is not as easy as presumed. especially when it has become an Addiction . Discipline your self to lead a good life style in other avoid such future re-occureance.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Five signs of compatibility in relationships

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Compatibility in relationships is one term that has been greatly misunderstood and misinterpreted by many.

At the mention of the word “compatible”our minds often goes with having similar resemblance, in relationships we often picture a scenario of  two people who seems perfect for each other, possesing similar trait, hobby, likes and dislikes.

And then when reverse is the case, we say both are not compatible with each other.

An instance is this,Mr A is in relationship with miss B. The emotional feelings were mutual,however,  both  have a slight differences in their   personalities and traits. While Mr A is temperemental and easily provoked, miss B hardly gets provoked. Mr A may be emotional and sensitive, while Mr B maybe emotionally strong.

Now it is so easier to assume that both would never make  good couples as regards to the differences in their individual traits. Is easy to conclude they are not compatible with each other.

However,  despite the assumed incompatibility and individual differences,   there are still  people keeping it strong with their relationships.

Have you observed that some  couples are still living  together in harmony despite their weak points?

This signifies that possesing similar traits, personalities and qualities is not a guarantee that two people are compatible in a relationship. And not possesing similar qualities or being perfect is not a guarantee that they are incompatible either. And one may ask  what does  compatiblity in relationship actually mean?

Compatibility in relationship is the process by which two individuals with different backgrounds,  qualities, personalities and yet with mutual interest, feelings and emotional understanding .  have come together, ignoring their flaws and imperfections, with the intention of accepting and loving each other, just the way they are.

Note the word “mutual understanding ” that means she knows he can be temperemental a times, but yet she is willing to accept him, condone him and understand his mood at all times without  having to initiate conflits.

He knows she is sensitive, insecured and  sturbon a times, yet he understands this and always willing to put up with this attitude. This is what compatibility In relationship  actually entails. And not having similar attitudes but always having to deal with Unresolved issues and conflicts. I will explain  other signs to identify compatibiliy in relationships.

Five signs of compatibility in relationship.

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Mutual Trust

You can’t say two people are compatible with each other  when their trust levels are quite different. One or both might be  having some feelings of insecurity initially as a result of their past relationship. But as soon as the relationship begins and when assurance had been giving by his/her significant other. They are expected to start bulding their trust gradually. Just imagine being in love with someone you truly believe in and confide in. You feel secured around them. You hardly doubt them. But on the contrary, they question every move you make,hardly believe you. Even when you try so hard to convince them. Such experience could be traumatizing and doesn’t show any sign of compatibility in relationships.

 

Mutual  interest.

You   may not really have a similar goals and dreams, but there is willingness to support each other’s goals and dreams in life. I’ve come across a lot of marriages where conflicts began as soon as  the wedding ceremony  was over.and what was the bone of contention? Disagreements on a partner’s choice of career.

The husband assumes  that his wife may not be able to  manage  both her career and family simultaneously. While the wife feels she can. In the course of their disagreement, the man may instruct her to quit the job against her wish. Being a career woman, she may object to it. resulting in an  unending conflicts.

And sometimes may lead to divorce in some  severe cases. That is, if the issue prolongs. But when there is compatibility, such wouldn’t be an issue.

Because while the woman is working towards managing both simultaneously. The man is willing to offer his support and encouragements because he shares the same interest with her.

Tolerance

One way to identify compatibility in relationship is when both couples possess the  ability to contol their emotions at all time.

 

And that can only be achieved by tolerance.  Remember what we said ealier when we began our explanation on what compatibility in relationship actually implies.

Is all about learning to condone one another’s imperfections you can’t talk about compatibility without mentioning Tolerance, because that is what will make your relationship soar higher and wax stronger.

If you can’t tolerate one another,,then that means you can’t live together in harmony. this is another way of saying that your relationship won’t lead to marriage, or may not work out if you eventually force yourself in.

Imagine dating someone whom you tolerate every now and then, whereas they get infuriated with you at any slightest provocation or gives you the  Silent treatment.You will feel bad right? It shows that you a’int on the same page with them, because while you are willing to forgo, they are always ready to bear grudges.

Have similar understanding and reasoning. 

You can only say you are compatible when your  reasoning  is similiar with that of your significant other.  i have seen some marriages where the conflicts was on whose responsibility it is to perform a certain duty.

This kind of issue occurs usually  because there is no understanding. One party may be  displaying  bossy attitude over  the other, as a result of variation in age  or academic qualification.

Such couples are yet to understand that a healthy relationship suports each other at all times, irrespective of the age differences or qualifications. Such relationship lacks compatibility because one or both reasons differently.

Excitement 

Imagine having all the four qualities as mentioned above in your relationship.

There will always be a feeling of excitement when you are together. you don’t feel compelled, manipulated or forced into the relationship.

Because this is whom you understands, shares common interests with, trust and tolerates. Such feelings is awesome.

Now before you venture into any relationship. First ask your self thisAre we compatible ?