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6 steps in Overcoming trying moments in life

 

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Overcoming trying moments in life

Trying moments in life is inevitable as life itself is unpredictable. Is every individual’s desire to have a stress free life. Is every individual dream to have their dreams and visions in life fulfilled. But unfortunately,  life does not always give us what we requested for.  At this juncture,, we may have no other choice than to accept it while working and hoping for the best.

Trying moments in life could come in  various forms ranging from financial instability, ailments, loosing of loved ones,  crisis in relationship/marriage, unemployment, loss of job  and so on. The list is endless, but these are the major and the most common reason of so many challenges people undergo in life.

Just like the saying goes,  he who wears the shoe knows where it hurts the most. You may not understand what they are going through if you haven’t encountered similar experience.

 

It is so easy to counsel them,  issue advise or instructions,  judge them or tell them what they could have done to avert the situation. but then, realistically is not always easy as portrayed.

just like a woman undergoing marriage crisis and emotional abuse.  Everybody will keep screaming get a divorce,  the society will keep blaming her for not getting a divorce considering the fact that her life is at risk, if she continues to stay in such marriage.  However,  no one would understand the pains of getting separated in a marriage/relationship where you might had probably invested a lot.  Especially when kids are involved.  No one understands the psychologically and emotional trauma associated with divorce.  Divorce might really be the best decision in some scenario however,  only the one about to make such decision knows and understands how difficult it is.

Trying moments in life can lead to  depression..  A depressed mind needs words of encouragement in other to have their hopes revived. But unfortunately,  depression a times comes with pessimism and the feelings that all hope had been lost.

This is why most depressed people often resort to suicide. 1 out of 10 individual’s commits suicide annually.  In some rare cases,  depression can also Lead to Mental disorder.  Not every insane person on the road is actually mad.  Some emerged as a result of frustration.

Having known  what trying moments in life entails and it’s psychological effect.  The next question is,  how we can overcome it? How can we cope when we unfortunately find ourselves amides  of storms and challenges of life?

4 steps in Overcoming trying moments in life.

Believe in yourself

this is similar to the saying “tough time does not last but tough people do. There is one remarkable features about tough people that distinguishes them from their counterparts. And that is the fact that they are always optimistic.

They don’t give up easily. They hardly believe is over. And that’s why they keep striving rather than contemplate suicide. Their toughness is borne out of the fact that they have much confidence in themselves. No matter how intense the storms of life is. They are ready to walk through. Such people keeps the hope alive even when they loose their job.

And that is why you often see them bounce back again and might even become self employed. It might only take time, but their dreams never dies. Some storms in life requires nothing than believing in yourself while hoping for the best. Examples of Such storms are  loosing a job and financial instability.

Be positive minded

Negativity often breeds negative thoughts like suicide. I’ve often heard a lot of people use the phrase “i am finished”. I am very certain they really don’t know the meaning of such statement.

Because if they do,,they wouldn’t have uttered it. finish literally indicates an end toward something, it also indicates lifeless. That implies that you’ve unintentionally declared yourself lifeless even while you are still life. Are there people who had passed through similar situation and came out stronger? Then assure yourself that definitely you will.

Get motivation from experienced folks

The best source of motivation is the one gotten from experienced people who had probably gone through similar experience and still pulled through.

This is because such motivations is more practical than theoretical. It is real and contains useful guide that will enable the seeker of such motivation to overcome his/her own trials.

When you are passing through certain challenges,it is common to assume that you are the most unfortunate human on earth. But when you look around or read some motivational articles, you will find out that yours is minor as compared to what  others might have undergone. This would definitely make you to feel relieved and optimistic. It would also help to calm your nerves as you continue to push.

Avoid publicizing your challenges

That you are having issue or challenges in relationship/marriage is not enough reason to make your keep announcing your problem even to those who may not care to listen. A lot of relationship/marriage had been damaged by wrong counsel. In the bid to save your relationship or marriage, you might be unknowingly making it prone to more dangers. This is also applicable to other trying moments in life aside relationship/marriage. If you must seek for advise, endeavor is from the right source.

Be consistent

Nothing drives passion and motivation than seeing the result of your endeavors. It induces hard work and the passion to be more committed.

However, that may not be guaranteed at all times. There are times when things might not be going the way you wished them. There are times when your effort might not correlate with your handwork.

This is another trying moment in life. and if you are not careful enough, you might be tempted to quit at this point. but always remember that every road to success is not always smooth. a times one have to pass through so many pot holes before getting to the destination. . Before achieving your dream. To every glory, there is always a story.

 

Prayers

overcoming-lifes-difficult-moments has never been easy, but prayer can be very effective at such time.

I know how depressing it can be to experience trying moments in life. Sometimes, you feel frustrated and weak to pray.

No matter how difficult it is, never relent in prayers. You might have worked tiredly, labored so much but all to no avail. The best is leave the rest for God to handle since you’ve done your part. Soon you will be surprise at the outcome.

 

 

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How to be Self dependent and happy.

 

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Self dependent

 

Being Self  dependent and happy is one of the attributes that defines a champion or one willing to live up to his/her dreams.

But yet comes with lots of challenges.  Just like the saying goes,  no man is an island,  it is natural to crave for companionship,  friendship and relationship.  We all want to experience that special feelings of having someone around who by all indication have our interest at heart.

We all desire to have that caring friend  who comes to our aid in times of need,  we all desire to have that close relation who wouldn’t mind sacrificing their time and finances just to ensure we are happy and have our problem solved.  But what happens then if they eventually walks out from your life?

What happens if they suddenly woke up one day,  and to your greatest amazement,  comes up with an excuse of why they could  no longer render help to you,  thereby leaving you with the feelings of disappointments and resentments.

What happens if they suddenly grew cold toward you,  keeps their distance and tries to avoid you in other not to be bothered any longer?

What will you do in such scenario? Hang yourself? Give up on your self?yell on top of your voice?quit your dreams? Or sob till you get weary? Well if any of these could prefer solution,  I think a lot of persons would have had their problems solved.

The only constant thing in life is change.  We have to come to the realization that no one stays in our life permanently.humans are unreliable,   Your friends and relatives are human capable of disappointing you.  They can fail you despite their promises,  they can leave you amides of confusion and brokenness, they can leave you pondering if they actually existed in your life?they can desert you at that very time you needed help the most.

This is why every individual ought to be self reliable.  You have to practice how to be self dependent and happy.  Is not really easy especially when you’ve always depended on people for one thing or the other, but it is possible and quite achievable.  It only requires determination.

You can actually be self Dependent and happy if you’ve made a strong decision to do so.  I am going to explain some steps you have to adopt in other to achieve that purpose.

How to become self dependent and happy.

Self dependent and happy
Being self dependent and happy

Discipline

Every activity we do in life requires the application of discipline in other to be successful.

Discipline simply means subjecting ourselves and mind to self control,  forgoing or curbing some flaws or challenges which seems appealing, but stands a chance to become an obstacle to us in the future. do you know that being self dependent is an Addiction.

You can be so addicted to the point that you can’t really do anything on your own without having to rely on someone for assistance.  You can’t even try because you are  already used to requesting for assistance every now and then.

Discipline your mind to do things on your own.  Assume you don’t have any assistance,  even though you have.  Be willing to subject your mind into taking action.  This will help you to be self dependent and happy.

Curbing your fears

Another significant way of becoming self dependent and happy is by learning how to curb your Fears.

Nothing makes an individual so dependent like fear.  Fear is one of the greatest weak point that can interfere with one’s dream and goals in life.  Fear can prevent one from making an attempt in life,  fear can hide one’s ability, potential and competency. Fear can enslave one.

Most times, we are more competent than people we rely on,  but because we are so engulfed with fear,  we may not recognize this fact.  Get up and conquer your fear. It is not easy,  but quite possible and achievable.  Try doing things on your own,  even if it means failing,  even if it means having to repeat it several times.

Practice they say makes perfect,  with time,  you will look back at those memories and be glad you did it yourself and never relied on anyone.  Your legacy will live on,  your children will always be proud of your achievement in the future.

Always Think of disappointments.

Just like Was earlier explained,  human are unpredictable and unreliable.  No one can be trusted at all times.not even your close relations.

Your friends are liable to disappoint you any time despite their promises,  your relatives can fail you at the time you needed them most,  and so there is nothing you can do about that.  Always think of disappointment, even as you are optimistic that they will fulfill their promise, also think of the probability of the later.  This would focus your mind on reality so you don’t feel relaxed and at the end of the day, while being  caught  unawares.

 

 

 

 

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6 strategic ways to monetize your hobby

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To monetize your hobby, You must first believe its possibility. Unfortunately so many individual still finds it difficult to believe that certain hobby or skills can actually be turned into a passive income. Because we have this general belief and mindset that hobby is all about fun.

Often times, we engage in certain hobbies as a means to relieve stress, cure boredom and have fun with our friends during our leisure time.

Unfortunately, some folks who are unemployed  often use their hobby as a means to avoid depression which may occur due to their unemployed state.

Without realizing that it can actually change their job stature from unemployed individual into self employed individual.

If you have ever read the biography of most celebrities and successful individuals, you will discover that their success was borne  as soon as they found out the efficacy that lies within their hobby. Their life transformed from From zero to hero,  because they discovered a potential that lies within their source of fun. But one important thing you must have in mind is that they didn’t just wake up with the intention of turning their hobby into a massive income. it all began with the idea of let me blog because  i love sharing my ideas,  i love football a lot.

A renowned blogger once shared  her autobiography on how she started blogging just for the fun of it, without having an intention of making a dime out of it.

But fortunately, the so called hobby did not just become her source of income, but it also became her source of fame.

similarly a renowned footballer popularly known as lionel messi began his football career as a hobby. He narrated how he used to play with tins of container along the street. Till his hobby became his source of fame.

This stories are just to motivate you to understand that there is no special skills  process or time frame involved to monetize your hobby and there is no specific time either.

The idea to do that can strike at any time. Do not assume it is late already. It is not. However, there are steps you ought to follow and rules you  have to adhere to, to ensure your dream comes true. We would explain this steps in details, As  this is the main objective  of our discussion.

Basic Strategic ways to monetize your hobby.

Developing Passion

passion is like a fuel that drives your effort toward achieving your goal. before you monetize your hobby, you must have passion for it.

Passion is what keeps you glued toward your hobby or skills even before discovering the idea of turning it into a passive income.

Famous and successful people who turned their hobby into an income were able to achieve that because they had long developed affection in their hobby.

And that’s why they do it consistently even they are yet to achieve anything from it. Your hobby has to do with something you love doing and engaging on, otherwise it is not worthy to be called a hobby.

consistency

Passion gives rise to consistency, your love for your hobby Can spur your effort towards practicing it on daily basis .consistiency derives positive result. Your fame, success and victory can happen in just a day, irrespective of how long you’ve been practicing it. But the possibility of its occurrence lies on your consistency. Since life is unpredictable, and  we  don’t really know the specific day our success story would occur, we ought to be consistent and active at all times. Consistency also brings about perfection. Monetizing your hobby also entails creating room for improvement, because you are gradually transiting from the stage of hobby into the stage of professionalism.

Adopting an optimistic spirit

One of  Qualities of great and successful people is the ability to see an opportunity in every thing. Especially what people regard as nothing.  Optimism is the ability to see possibility in what others  might have  termed impossible. This is what distinguishes great people from their counterparts. With your hobby, Where do you hope to  see yourself in the next five years? Are you still living in doubts? thinking of becoming perfect or having a special skill before you start being positive and optimistic.

The truth is, you might not need any other special skill to become perfect apart from your passion, consistency and optimism.

You really don’t know how much you worth as a comic reliever till you become optimistic and give it a trial. You really don’t know how much income that surrounds you as a music artist, till you become optimistic. Say no to your fears, and believe you can.

Striving to become better

Creating room for improvement is one of the best strategic ways to monetize your hobby. You are not the only one performing or engaging in  such hobby, a lot of people had done that in the past and are currently doing it. you are not the only music artist, blogger or footballer, but what would give you an edge over others doing the same thing is your creativity and unique styles. Yes you might be doing similar things as your rivals, but in a more unique style. That’s why you must never relent in improving yourself and learning on daily basis. Change is the only constant thing in life, to become great you have to avoid stagnancy and embrace changes.

Always work on your flaws

your imperfection does not make you weak, your flaws does not make you weak, what does is your inability to admit and work on them. Being Egocentric  is one of the easiest way to become a failure.

Your Ego makes you believe that you are perfect and so don’t really need an adjustment or corrections. To monetize your hobby, you have to humble yourself enough to admit your flaws and accept corrections when necessary.

consider your audience need

As you’ve taken a  decision to move your hobby to the next stage, you have to understand that it is no longer about you, but about your audience.

As a hobby, is just about you and what gives you fun. but as a source of income, is all about your audience and the service you are rendering to them, while having fun at the same. so in other to achieve the best result, you have to put your audience into consideration by striving to give them the best.

You have to build that trust among your audience/followers, then money would automatically follow suit.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Self love quotes To boost your confidence

 

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Self love quotes

self love quotes are not just quotes or Factual words, they are inspirational and powerful words purposely written with the aim  of boosting our self confidence and relieving us from low self esteem.

Many a times, we are faced with challenges,  intimidation, suppressions, Depression, rejections, denial, betrays,  and  disappointments.  Such life situations are capable dragging our self esteem to the mud. The fear of failure has its way of reducing our self worth.

However, self love  quotes helps us to realize who we are, and our purpose on earth.

It gives us an insight and direction on how to reach our goals. It encourages us to stay strong and confident amides of challenges, rejections and denial.

It helps us to realize our worth. it helps us to move on easily even after break up. self love quotes  helps to boost your confidence and keep you going.

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Self love quotes

Top  self love quotes to keep you going

Be proud of who you are

This self love quotes is aimed at giving you self satisfaction and reminding you that you are the best of your kind, despite your flaws and weakness. It helps to eliminate self comparison and Inferiority complex. It also reminds you on the need to appreciate yourself as no one is perfect.

you are original. 

you know how important an original product is?no matter how attractive, appealing or good looking, a duplicate is, the original is always preferred at any time.

When submitting a very important document for an official use, you might be asked to present the original copy,,when buying a product, you will always seek for the original you know why? Originality denotes authentic and sincerity. While duplicate denotes fake and imitation.

No matter what people say about you, or how inferior you rate yourself,,just know you are real, you are authentic, you can never be someone else. Your beauty lies in being you.

Being original while working on your flaws is better than copying others and trying to live up to their standard. You are unique just the way you are.

 

you are your Rival

This self love quote is to remind you that You have no other rival apart from yourself.

Your aim should be to have your present better than your past. You should be striving to have your future better than your now.

You are not in competition with anyone but yourself. Having others as rivals would only result to bitterness, envy and hatred. While being your own rival would spur and inspire you to achieve your goals.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent

Your happiness lies solely on you. Is not how other sees you and rates you that matters, but how you rate your self. If you give people the impression that you worth nothing,

they would surely treat you like you worth nothing. If you give them the impression that you are inferior, they will surely take advantage of that .

Make them believe that you are unique in -spite of your flaws, they will forever appreciate you and respect you. Be who you want to attract.

 

self love is the ability to look Good without needing anyone to tell you. 

self love begins with you. self love quotes would have no effect on you, when you always expect to get recommendations, approval or accolades from people before leaving the life of your dream.

you are unique and fearfully made. re-assure your self this on regular basis. The best form of appraisal is Self appraisal This is because the appreciation you give yourself is the most sincere appreciation. while that which you may get from others might be as means to acquire one favor or the other from you.

Believe in yourself even when no one does.

many a times, we tend to give up,when it seems like no one recognizes us, we loose hope when it seems like the world has rejected us.

If a creature like lizard could have self confidence and worth praising itself even when no one does, how much you that is more advanced? Believe you can, believe you can soar higher. Change that impression people have about by by proofing that you are eager and capable.

It is not who you are that brings you down, but who you think you should be.

Self love quotes can only be relevant in your life, the moment you realize that you may not be the best, but you are better than the rest.

There are people who desires to be like even when you underrate yourself. While you are busy envying some other people, a lot of people might be wishing to be in your shoes.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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from zero to hero. is still Achievable.

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Lionel messi

Moving from zero to hero is not a fairy tale, is quite achievable and possible.

Often times, when we hear people narrate their biography and how they suddenly rose from a nobody to that special individual being admired and celebrated all over the world, it sounds like a fiction.

But the truth is, such stories are real. A lot of  People suddenly rose from zero to hero as as soon as they realized that success doesn’t engage in favouritism. Success knows no age limit, family background or any particular class. It comes to people  who are ready to change their status quo. And be determined to make it at all cost.

The major mistake  we make in life is to assume that every success story  came as a result of connection from higher authority, prominent men/women or royal families. That’s not always the truth.

Behind every glory, investigate well, there is usually a story associated to it. But often times, we skip the story part while focusing more on the glory part. And here lies our problem.we don’t wish to hear how it all began because we are scared of the hurdles and challenging part of the story. But the truth is this, every legitimate success has a story line. Some which were filled with moments of pains, several months/years of bitterness and hardship but yet a determining and optimistic spirit to succeed against all odds.

Most celebrities we hail  today have their own share of the stories too. Their success didnt emerge from the sky. It all began at a zero level.

lionel messi, the professional famous footballer began his football profession in the street, along side with some other known famous footballers. At age 13. He was diagonised with a Deficiency growth hormone .  He never had a wonderful background, but yet he utilized any available opportunity he had.

I can not end up this article without mentioning one of the world’s prominient hero and personality. His name is Dr ben carson. He is one of the hero i admire so much. His story is so captivating and inspiring that one can hardly ignore.

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His sudden rise from zero to hero is so overwhelming. Having lost his father at a very tender age, ben and his sibling grew up with their mother who struggled so hard to give them s good life. She did so many menial jobs in other to train them.

During his basic education, ben was not a brialliant pupil. He was known as a dull pupil and what people may refer to as a never do well. As a result of his dull performance, he was often used as an object of ridicule by his fellow pupil. they often made jest of  him.

Until one day he took a decision to change his story. And today the once ridiculed Ben has become onebof the world’s best neurosurgeon.there are still several of them with such zero to hero stories. So numerous to mention, but i will stop here, so we can focus on what to do in other to share our own zero to hero story.

From zero to hero. How to achieve it.

 

Believe is possible.

You can’t transform from zero to hero without believing is possible. Your belief is what makes it achievable.

Funny enough, so many folks believes that being born without a silver spoon or having grown up in a ghetto is a sign that they will end up in abject  poverty for the rest of their lives.

they’ve given up on life and have lost all hopes to succeed. and this mentality  is one of the reason  why they might remain stuck in their condition.

However, it is amazing to know that most successful people never had a wonderful background. only few out of millions have their wealth inherited.  others struggled for it. and what was their secret?

Changing their status quo. 

this is one of the ways in Overcoming your fears.

Life may not give you the lemon you crave for.

But you don’t have to settle for lime all the rest of your life. Not everyone was fortunate to have the privilege to be born with a silver spoon.

Some were fortunate to  acquire their silver spoon by birth. While Others had to work for it.

And fortunately, with their hardwork, they did not only acquire a silver sppon but also a golden one. be determined to change that status quo.

that you have less doesn’t mean you must settle less. there is always a  room for improvement. Aim higher. how can you do that?

 

Get into work.

Action they say speaks louder than words. All other points i mention are vital.

But it will be sounding more like a theory, if i fail to mention the most important of all which is getting into work. enough of the procrastination. check the history of people who rose from zero to hero.

They never got that by wishing. Some were gotten from several months/years of sleepless night accompained with endless prayer.

they didn’t just work hard. but also smart. They hardly spend their time engaging in irrelevant activity when they were meant to be working. Because they understand the importance of Time management.

When their mates were busy flirting around, clubbing, drinking themselves to stupor. they were busy preparing their future.

they don’t find it necessary keeping lots of friends. They only have few friends whom they share common interest and goals with. They try as much as possible to avoid any situation that poses a distraction to their dreams.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Unleashing your greatness

 

 

 

Unleashing your greatness
Unleashing your greatness.

Your greatness in life depends solely on your ability to discover who you are,  your purpose and value.  The word “unleash” means to free, release  or let go. You can’t release what you are not in possession of.

You first have to understand that your greatness is not far from you. It is within. Unfortunately, so many folks are yet to understand this. They run from pillar to post looking for a means  of livelihood, they run helter and skelter, thinking that their destiny had been tied somewehere.

They keep searching for wealth in the wrong places   Without realizing the fact that it is right under their feet.  They keep chasing shadows while the real being is right beside them .

Some days ago. I was discussing with a friend and she said and i quote. ” making it in this shit hole country is so hard especially as the recession is becoming worse by day.   I tried to let her understand that her greatness is not tied to the economic situation of the country.

The economy might not be friendly, but then there are still people breaking records.

There are still folks leading a comfortable life. Recession and economic declination regardless. Their secret is simple. They have discovered who they are  and what they are in possession of.

The next thing was to release it, by putting it into action and they became who they are today. Note: it is not a day’s job and not so easy as well.  Whoever tells you otherwise is only  trying to deceive you and doesn’t mean well for you. It requires commitment, patience and hardwork.

But  the good news is  that it is quite possible and achieveable. We all desire to be great, but the bitter truth is that greatness  doesn’t come by hoping, it comes by determination, hardwork and Persistence

. If you can’t do any of the mentioned. then am sorry, Achieving greatness may be a night mare for you. Having known what unleashing greatness entails,  this, let’s look at some factors that will enable you achieve it.

Effective ways to unleash the greatness in you.

Leverage on every on every opportunity.

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Don’t get so worked up on your set back to the point of getting your whole energy sapped. Don’t spend much time figuring out why it couldn’t work the way you presume. But rather spend more time in finding out other ways to make it work. See every disappointment as a motivating factor, see every failure as an opportunity in disguise.

Amidst of every disappiontment, there had risen heroes who rather than blame people or situations around,  topped up their game by  using the disapointment to  their advantage. You a’int an exception too. You can do that as well. Let your failure motivate you and not set you back.

Ignore every limitation

Have you ever observed? Each time you try to do something new, there is always this fear of uncertainity that tends to draw you back.

you can never know  your strength till you try a new adventure. Your limitation could be your weakness, that mindset  that your a’int competent enough.

That mindset that you a’int in possession of the right quality. This could be your limitations. But i have to remind you this, you don’t need to be perfect or flawless to embark on any project.

Check the life history of the world’s renowned men and women, they all started from a scratch. they all began by  discovering  who they are, their purpose in life and how to achieve that. With consistency, they gradually became better till they rose towards fulfilling their accomplishments.

Don’t be afraid to take risk

Am sure you must have heard of the slogan. It is almost risky not to take a risk in life. Yes because life itself is a risk.

Each and every day comes with its own uncertaintity. We wake up each day uncertain of what fate actually holds for us, or the likely misfortune we might face. But then, we still wouldn’t want our breathe to seize. we still wish to explore life outside and

Embark on a project or journey,  we always desire to  try out new adventures irrespective of its outcome. This is life. So in essense, stop leaving in fear. Stop admitting negativity. Admit to your self that even if you fail, you wouldn’t have to regret your decision, but it will serve as a way to improve and make your self better. that will help you in  Overcoming your fears.

be mindful of your environment

Don’t allow your self get stuck when things a’int moving in your present location.

Sometimes take a decision to make an adjustment. Even if it means relocating.  It is not moving here, fine!! But have you tried other places? the rule of success demands You always be in motion and not remain stagnant. As long as positive result is guaranteedJust make sure you develop a new plan or idea.  Always endeavour to be around positive minded people. One of the most significant factor associated with failure comes as a result of negative influence.

Bad communication brings about Set back. You need people who would inspire you via their successful life. you need a role model.  people  who would always ignite hope in you. and not people who derives joy in lamenting over their situations constantly. Without any effort to change the status quo.

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