Inconsistency in relationship

Relationship just like every other aspect of life could be sometimes faced with some challenges, ranging from inconsistency, irregularities and negligence.

At one point or the other, we may observe the depreciation of love by our partner, and the feelings that the relationship is gradually loosing its spark. The signs are obvious, that you needed no soothsayer to interpret them. Yet your subconscious mind still wouldn’t come in terms of accepting the reality. You still need to be reassured. You still need some benefits of doubt. You still need some explanation, as to reawaken your lost hope and optimism. This is the reason why it becomes so difficult to walk away as soon as you start observing any unusualty in your relationships.
If that is your case, I must applaude you for not giving up so easily without first trying to find out what led to such situation.

Here are some measures and best ways of dealing with such situations.

1) communication – communication is the bedrock of any relationship. It is the easiest way of pouring out your mind and opinion to someone in such a way that they can understand you concisely . No matter how close and intimate you are to your partner, they may not understand what is going in your mind, except you communicate with them. Let them know what is bothering. Be transparent, have a heart to heart talk with them.

2) ATTENTION – once you have communicated with them, try and listen to their own side of the story. Do not be in a haste to draw conclusions. Sometimes, the situation might not be the exact scenario we painted in our minds. They might be passing through a rough and hard phase of life. And the best thing they need from you is a keen attention and understanding. Nagging and constant complaint will only add more pressures to them which will worsen their situation.

3 PATIENCE – . As you have listened to them and have known the reason behind their action, the next thing is to exercise patience with them, since you have been reassured that they have not fallen out of love with you, the best thing to do is to give them time to fix their life. Remember that we all need stability, to function and strive well in every aspect of life, allow them to be stable and back to their feet again, before bringing up relationship matters. Remember such a critical time is the time they need you most in their life. Be their source of encouragement at this time.