After break up, common mistakes you must avoid.

 

Few days, weeks or months after break up is usually the most hectic and  toughest for people who are going through heartbreak.

Especially for people who are the receiving end. That phase of life is usually daunting.

You wished you could just wake up just to discover that it was a night mare, the heartache is still intense because You can feel its effects all over you.

You grew so lean because you hardly eat, you suddenly lost your appetite, you developed insomnia as a result of  so much worries and depression. You suddenly lost the sense of living as nothing excites you anymore. at that point, am very certain that you are still hopeful, anticipating and believing that they will soon change their mind and call back the relationship.immediately after break up, You always check your phone every now and then to know if they had suddenly realized that breaking up with you was the greatest mistake and decision they took.

But unfortunately, nothing of that nature seems to be happening. and that leaves you more hurting than you were. No matter how emotionally strong you are, heartbreak could be an awful feeling. Especially if you were committed in the relationship.

The more committed you are, the more you get unease when this love story becomes a history. The more committed you are, the greater your tendency of finding it difficult to let go.

heartbreak knows no individual or personality, it has the ability of making one humble and doing some crazy thing which you wouldn’t have done on a normal day

 

A male friend once bragged to me that no woman can ever break his heart. With his flirting lifestyle, he assumes that he can never fall in love, and even if peradventure he does, and it later results to heartbreak, that he would easily and pretend like nothing happened.

These were only “mere words” coming from assumption. He never realized that heartbreak actually hurts till he had an experience.

He nearly went insane. He did a lot of crazy things like attempting suicide on several occasions. Experience thought him how powerful heartbreak could be.

However, the main focus and aim of these goal is not to describe the feelings associated with heartbreak, but to outline some common mistakes people often make after break up or when trying to Survive after a break up This mistakes are the reason why majority are  are finding it hard to move on after break up

Common mistakes to avoid after break up

Constant pleas

There is absolutely nothing wrong with admitting your faults after break up.we are assuming a scenario where you were the defaulter.

You ought to apologize. When you do that, the next thing is to await for a response. is either you are forgiven or not. is either he/she accepts  you or not. Is either they return or not,is either you are given a response or ignored.  whichever seems to be the case, try as much as possible to accept it in good fate.

Don’t be over expectant, so you would not end up in disappointments. No matter how hurt you are, try as much as possible to resist the urge to plead constantly, when they have already made it clear to you that they were no more interested.

You can’t force people to love you, that will be an insane thing to do, because they will always rub it to your face. being loved out of pity is not ideal. Quit asking the questions like why?trying to find out why they suddenly changed their mind. or what you could have done to avert the situation? Sometimes, there is no reason, people can Fall out of love for several reasons which has nothing  to do with you. It could either they have lost the  Sparkor they have gotten a substitute for you.

Rebound relationship

After break up, you will have an intense urge to jump into another relationship immediately, as a result of  loneliness and boredom.

However, you ought to resist that urge. Because at this point, you  are likely  vulnerable to experience further and severe hurts. Loneliness may derive you to start seeking solace and comfort from people whose sole aim might be to ruin you by taking advantage of your weak point and condition.

Putting your life on hold.

 

This is one common mistake a lot of folks make after break up, they allow their emotions dominate other aspects of their life. they feel helpless, hopeless and worthless and thus give up on the desire to live and find love again. in as much as heartbreak is hurtful and difficult to let go. You ought to try and overcome that thought telling you that you can never find love again. build your self esteem and confidence. don’t allow inferiority complex grip you down.

Regrets.

After break up, our battered hearts are usually filled with regrets . we regret ever knowing our ex, we regret the first day we met them, we regret accepting them into our lives. these feelings are normal. however, every relationship has two purposes, is either it leads you to the alter or makes you learn the hard way. Both are important. if it doesn’t go well, don’t regret. learn your lessons and move on. the lesson learnt will help you to manage your next relationship well. Avoid regrets at all cost. with constant regrets, you would never move on. you would remain stuck with the memories of your past relationship.