Is she playing hard to get or not interested?
Trying to Figure out if a woman is playing hard to get or not interested can pose as one of the difficult task. It is like a rocket science especially when it is accompanied with lots of Mixed signals. It equally comes with mixed feeling and is more common with women, as they wish to appear more confident and less desperate in other to attract the respect and attention of the opposite gender.
Most believe that accepting a man out rightly can signal a wrong message to him indicating that she’s too cheap and so will deliberately act uninterested just to induce that confidence.
Most men understands this scenario, and so doesn’t always take a woman’s rejection serious especially at the first attempt of advances, hoping that eventually she will change her mind and come around.
However, there are some scenario when a man is left with mixed signals after making advances to his crush, a scenario where a woman’s says no to her advances, but he’s still optimistic that her No could mean that she needs more time, so as not appear off as desperate. And so, rather than keep applying pressures, he may decide to slow down, by giving her more time to re – evaluate her feelings, and then come around at her own convenience.
Unfortunately, this waiting time can be so exhausting, as it may begin to linger for days, weeks or even months. getting him more paranoid and leaving him with a rhetorical question on weather she’s still playing hard to get or not really interested.
A hard as it might be to figure out her true intentions. There are subtle signs that could help to feed your curiosity at that point, which will be explained below.
signs to know if she is playing hard to get or not interested.
1. Her facial expression.
When a woman is not interested in you, she tends to appear natural around you.
If she’s the aggressive type, she will always pour out her emotions in a given situation without trying to hide it. If she’s the confident type, she can easily express her opinion exactly the way it is. She can easily look into your eyes and tell you whatever she has in mind.
On the contrary, a woman in love seems to be the reverse here. She tends to hide some of those aggressive traits that could be a turn off for men .
This is because she’s afraid of loosing him and wouldn’t want to scare him away.
She will exhibit the trait of shyness when around a man she loves. Whether they are natural or not. She will find it hard looking into his while they’re together. And even if your eyes met each other coincidentally, she will quickly look away. Even if she keeps insisting that you give her time, this will rekindle your hope.
2. Her body language.
She has not verbally accepted your advances, but each time you’re both talking as friends, or together she tries to rest on your shoulder or desires to be cuddled.
This is a sign that she craves your warmth masculinity and protection. If she’s not interested in you, she won’t put up those signs, but will decline even if you make an attempt to.
3. she reveals her secret to you.
When a woman is in love, she tends to be more expressive and open to her lover or crush than anyone else. This is because she feels at ease and comfortable around you to disclose such personal information.
If a woman is always transparent to you, telling you every sensitive and personal details about herself especially if you never asked for it, there’s every tendency that they are interested in you.
Such sensitive information includes their past love life . They may want validation from you in other to know your likes and dislikes, and what it takes to keep you.
4. They create time for you.
Every woman is busy, and never in the mood to take calls, but not until they meet someone their heart yearns for.
No matter how a woman tends to pretend, there’s always this euphoria that comes whenever the phone rings, and the caller happens to be their crush.
Even when she claims to be busy or not in the mood to take calls, and you intentionally decide to ignore her for some days. Watch her reaction, there will be compliant and nags of being abandoned or haven’t not heard from you for a long time.
Have you ever wooed a girl for sometime but she keeps giving you attitude, but then, immediately you made a decision to move on and stop bothering her, she begins to complain of negligence? This is a typical illustration of a woman in love but playing hard to get.
5. she feels jealous when you flirt with other girls.
one of the obvious sign that a girl is interested in you, even though she’s declining your advances is her reaction when you are with other girls.
Apparently, she may have put you in a friend zone, but always feels insecure when you pick a call of the opposite sex around her. Whenever she’s curious to know who called you or whose call you received, you should be rest assured that she’s into you even if she tries to pretend about it.
Feeling jealous is one of the signs that depicts one’s feeling towards another. It is humane to protect what we cherish and to feel insecure as soon as we discover that we are about to loose it.
6. she rarely declines your request.
A woman who’s practically not into you won’t find it difficult turning down your request on any invitations like going out together or meeting up some where.
But when reverse is the case, she willingly accepts your invitation even if it entails adjusting her schedules to meet up with yours. When it comes to assisting you in any aspect of life it may be required, she willingly does that without expecting much from you.
so what should be your next action after seeing all these signs?
1. Give her time.
While it may seems like you are about to get friend zoned forever, it is important to understand that feelings can’t be easily erased. They are still hovering around you because they need some time probably to be certain that you are the right one for you.
They haven’t given you any reply because they want to be certain that you ain’t coming for momentarily fun but for serious commitment, they might have had terrible experience in the past, and then taken a decision not to rush things to ascertain your true intentions.
Don’t give up on her yet, especially if she’s consistent in her expression of love. just give it some time and see how things go. Who knows, it might turn out to be one of the best love story ever written or experienced.
2. Don’t pressurize her.
No matter how badly or urgently you want the relationship to be, avoid putting pressures on her, as soon as she turns down your proposal. Just let her be.
While playing hard to get could mean playing games to some people, it doesn’t seems like that to everyone. Some people love it more when they start off with friendship.
And then the friendship will gradually and eventually develop into love, paving more rooms for bonding and intimate connection. That could be her reason of making your request linger for so long.
3. Play her game too.
Trying to convince her on the reason why she needs to date you will leave her paranoid and guessing if you’re real or just wanna play with her.
That’s not the true characteristics of a gentle man. Gentle men don’t pressurize ladies, they make the atmosphere conducive for them to love and be loved.
Haven’t you heard that desperation makes thing unattainable, the more you’re desperate to have her, the higher chances of loosing her because she won’t see that value in her.
Not until you play her game, by doing absolutely nothing but going with the flow and acting like you no longer care after being turn down. That will definitely bruise her ego and if she truly have something for you, she won’t hesitate to let it out so as not to loose you.
4. Move on.
A saying goes this, if you get hold of a bird, let it fly, don’t hold grip of it, if it is yours, it must surely return back, but if not yours, its gonna fly to an unknown destination.
No matter how eager you’re to date someone, if accepting your advances is taking so much time than expected, it may be the best decision to move on with your life.
You can’t keep waiting for their reply which may never come. There’s limit to every perseverance, and when this limit is exceeded, doing otherwise will no longer be a choice but a necessity.
No matter the intense of your feelings,do not let any woman friend zoned you forever . You should be able to know if they are either not interested in you, playing hard to get or just wanna play games with you. Being in charge of your emotions is not optional but a necessity.
