This has been a question that has kept so many women in a dilemma over the years. The more they ponder on it, the more confused they become.

At the initial stage, he is all over you, professing his undying love for you and showering you with so much affections. You thought you’ve found the one. Your instincts gave you the assurance that your “MR right” is here. He asked for sex. You didn’t think about it twice because to you he deserves it. You felt safe and secured with him and that’s why you didn’t hesitate to give him that access to your body even though you may not have had the experience before.

He finally had his way, and that moment you thought his love towards you would increase. But alas, you were wrong. to your greatest amazement, reverse became the case. He starts to act weird, became distant and cold. Leaving you in a devastated state. At that moment, it then dawned on you that it was all about sex after all. Now the question is, what actually happens at this period? why do men often exhibit such attitude? This kind of scenario is not new to most of us, it happens on daily basis. In other to find an answer to this question. We would talk about the emotional state in both men and women and how it differs. both men and women have a different way of reacting to emotions.

Men are often derived by their urge and does not always express their emotions. While women tends to be so locked up with emotions and often Express it in every aspect of life. For example. When a man is sexually aroused, the sexual organs becomes activated, sending the message to the brain which triggers the male sex hormone and makes it active. That’s why a man can claim to be in love when the sex drive is high, but as soon as he have his way, he becomes uninterested. That’s why a man can comfortably have sex with a commercial sex hawker without attaching emotions to it. But unlike men,,women often attach emotions during love making. This explains why most women finds it difficult to let go of a man who deflowered them or who had countless intimacy with them. Though there are few exceptions to this, a man may have sex with a woman and still be in love with her. So it all boils down to knowing his intention at the initial stage. Is he really coming for love, or intimacy? You need to define your relationship with him from the onset in other to ascertain his intention. If you are not so comfortable in being intimate with him, don’t compromise. Stick to your decision and watch his actions. Only then you can predict his intention towards you.

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