We can’t know the signs of Emotional instability without understanding the term .
What is Emotional instability?
It is a term generally used to describe the state of not being in control of how one react to certain things in his or her environment. It is a state of being overwhelmed with one’s emotion to the point that it becomes too difficult and challenging to handle.
Emotions can range from the feelings of hurt, anger, frustrations, love, infatuations.
Having Emotions and exhibiting it constitutes to part of what makes us human.
However, controlling these emotions could be challenging a times.
80% of human activities are influenced by Emotions, this implies that the tendency of having your day made or mar depends on your emotions. Having a productive day or having a bad day equally depends on your Emotions.
Have you ever wondered why some people will remain strong, despite the traumatic circumstances surrounding them, while some others will break down even with the slightest issues of life. The reason is quiet simple. It lies in Differences in the mode of Emotional management.
Have you also wondered why some people seems to move on pretty quick when they loose a loved one, or a relationship, while some others may get stuck with the hurt for a very long time. It equally lies in differences in the mode of Emotional management
There are still several cases of Emotional instability such as having mood swings every now and then, getting unnecessarily paranoid and over possessiveness and jealousy in the case of relationships.
Being emotionally unstable can be mentally draining. It is not a trait so many are proud, yet they find it so hard to resist. The more they try, the more their emotions tends get grip of them. Hence the question
How can I maintain Emotional stability ?we can’t proffer a solution to a problem without first finding it’s root cause. Below are some of the factors that leads to Emotional instability .
Causes of Emotional instability.
1. Depression.
depressed people have the tendency of expressing a wide range of emotions such as mood swings, anger and bitterness.
They can easily pour their aggression on others because nothing seems to be exciting to them as life itself is unfair to them. That’s why you see most have mood swings intermittently.
This moment they feel excited, the next moment, they are moody. Such depression can emerge from psychological trauma, and hurts from the past.
psychological trauma.
There are folks who have experienced a wide range of psychological trauma ranging from sexual Molestation, emotional abuse which tends to change their mood intermittently as soon as they recall their past trauma.
They are happy one moment, and in the next minute, they’re moody. It’s quite difficult to understand such kind of folks, if you don’t know their story or understand the reason to which they behave in such manner.
Hurt from the past.
People who had been a victim from terrible past have the tendency to become Emotionally unstable in life. We all have our past stories, both the good, bad and terrible
But it’s quite unfortunate that some people never get to heal, or find it difficult to heal no matter how blissful their present is.
Sometimes, the inability to heal can be as a result of their past having a correlation with the future. The past bitter experience may have deposited a great deal of anxiety, fear and low self esteem in their hearts. These category of people believed that all men are scum, some others find it difficult to trust anyone because they are always scared of getting another betrayal as it was in their past.
Mental stress
This is another common cause of Emotional instability. Mental stress can arise from strenuous jobs, demanding jobs or one sided relationship. Having a bad time at work place due to demanding or strenuous job can affect one’s health and other areas of his life including his relationship or marriage.
He may find it difficult to function socially( interacting with others). Spiritually( praying). It can as well affect his relationship as he will become cold and distant towards his or her partner leading to nagging from their partner.
So how can one maintain an emotionally stabled amid of the above mentioned factors?
1. Avoid talking when you notice a fluctuating in your Emotions.
Sometimes, you may be tempted to speak in a manner which you ought not to or act in a way which you never expected as a result of intense emotions. This intense emotions can lead to violent act or brutal speech which may cause a lot of harm to you or the recipient. To avoid such, master the act of silence to calm a situation or scenario before taking a decision. Otherwise, you may cause a lot of irreversible damages in the future.
2. Work on your self esteem.
Sometimes, people’s attitude can trigger our emotions and make us act weird. It can occur in a relationship, where you may be compelled to act clingy and over possessive as a result of lack of attention.
This can make you emotionally unstable to the point of being needy. At such point, you need to master your emotions in other to regain your confidence.
3.Express your Emotions.
The more you tend to bottle up your feelings, the more intense your emotions will be..sometimes, you need to communicate your feelings. By communicating, you are letting out your fears, anxieties and expectations, giving people more room to understand you better.
If you don’t tell your partner about your mood, they will misinterpret some of your actions as loosing interest in them. Communication also let’s out that burden which often causes your mood swings.
4. Constant Exercise.
Some cases of Emotional instability especially mood swings can be curbed by constant Exercise
Exercise doesn’t just keep the body fit, but equally relaxes the mind. When the mind is relaxed, every other parts of the body will certainly function well.
5. Adequate rest.
When you are so overwhelmed with your emotions, rather than react, adopt for adequate rest or sleep as an antidote. It helps to suppress that intense emotions. On waking up, you will observe a new sense of feeling and sensations which was never in existence before the nap.
6. visit a therapist.
This may be the last resort after every other options must have failed. This can be applied in severe cases like psychological trauma and past hurt experience.
Consistent visit to a professional therapist will gradually walk you out of that hurt and lead you into your healing phase.
