There are several kinds of men you should avoid as a woman who craves to be in a committed and fruitful relationship.
Before we go into details in listing these set of men and why you should avoid dating them, we have to look at some of the emotional needs of a woman and what they desire to get in a relationship.
Emotional needs of a woman.
Attention –
This is the most significant need of women. Women are emotionally inclined, they are fragile in nature, they are said to be a weaker vessel than their male counter part.
They have the same characteristics as that of babies, and that is, the desire to be loved and cherished, the desire to be attended to whenever the need arises, the desire to be seen as a priority.
Protection .
Women loves protection a lot. And that’s why they are mostly drawn to men with masculine feature that makes them feel relaxed and safe. The masculine energy is one of the attractive feature in men that makes every lady to want to be around him. There’s this excitement that women often feels when a man holds holds her tight while walking together in a lonely night, or wraps his hands around her to cuddle her during cold nights.
Words of affirmation –
This is one of the best love language for every woman. Women loves it when they are appreciated over their looks,dressing and skills.
They love it when you overlook their weak point and focus more on their strength.
They love it when you correct them with love by first appreciating their effort. They love it when you remind them of how beautiful and gorgeous they look.
Financial support –
A woman doesn’t have to be materialistic before she craves to be supported by her man.
Giving is an act of affection, women sees it as a romantic gesture, whenever a man tries to support them in any form. It is not the worth of the gift that matters, but the thought of knowing that you have a man who finds it worthy to render his financial support in the form of gift or other means.
Financial support is also a sign of commitment . Men will only spend their resources on woman they desire to have a future with, and that’s why women often recognize that as one of their emotional need.
Types of men you should avoid.
Men who scared of commitment.
There are lots of signs that will indicate he is scared of commitment. One of such sign is ignoring any discussion about the future. No matter how a man claims to love you, if he’s not ready to commit, it shows how un serious he’s and irrelevant he sees your relationship with him. Even if he takes care of you, and offers you gifts every now and then, but shy away from future discussion, please don’t take such men serious, except you just want a fling just like he does. Most times, they already have a serious relationship elsewhere, but just want to catch fun with you.
However, if you’re considering building a a healthy relationship , dating such kind of men will be an absurd idea.
men who play hard to get.
While, It is normal for anyone to play hard to get in other to make the intending partner see their worth and value, however, making it extreme could signal pride and EGO.
Men are naturally hunters, they find it more easy and convenient approaching a woman than the other way round.
It’s still normal for a plan to play a little bit hard so as to avoid being pushy in other to make his worth visible, but doing that for too long depict a man who values his EGO more than you. Dating him means you have to keep massaging his ego in other to sustain the relationship.
men who finds it hard to apologize-
These kind of men never owns up to their mistake, let alone render an apology. They always feels that apologizing to a woman is not a masculine feature, hence will always play the victim, while you act as the offender.
These are the kind of men you should avoid. Considering them for marriage, will be at the detriment of your peace and sanity because as far as they are concerned, they can never be wrong, they will rather go silent on you than use the simple five lettered word “sorry”. If you’re dating such kind of man, you may need to rethink, else you will keep making excuses for his wrongs, while he acts like nothing happened.
Non vocal men.
The worst kind of men to date are those men who can’t express their emotions. Sadness, excitement and whatever. I know it sounds absurd right?not having a man who yell at you at a slightest provocation or calls your attention back when provoked by you may seem like the best thing that can happen to you.
But unfortunately, it could be the worst thing to ever happen to you. Men like this are mostly unpredictable. You can’t read their minds to know what their next action will be. Rather than pour out their emotions, they will result to silent treatment.
They are ready to ghost for as long as they wish, than telling you what the problem is.
Such men don’t care about their emotions, but only what will boost their EGO. It is better to be with a man who may yell at you and then be calm, than a bitter soul who would rather act, than speak. effective relationship. is important in every relationship.
Men who talks a lot.
In the list of men you should avoid, men who talks a lot are equally included.
Having a man who doesn’t open up is a red flag, but then, opening up doesn’t always have to mean being a talkative.
Men who discusses their bedroom escapades with their fellow men are not yet matured for marriage.
From such discussions, bad advise from negative folks can be generated. If you observe that you are dating “A kiss and tell guy”, quickly end that relationship before it gets to ruin you.
Marriage shouldn’t have any third party interference except in the form of marriage counselor or a trusted friend which may be sought for when the need arises or during marital crisis.
Men with multiple female friends..
Another kind of men you should avoid are men with multiple female friends. There’s nothing absolutely wrong with a man having female friends even while in a committed relationship.
However, watch it, when you’re dealing with a man who relates with random girls. Pay attention to how intimate he’s with them.
A man who values his woman shouldn’t bee seen getting unnecessarily close to other women.
Even if they are the one throwing themselves at him, he will find it easy to resist them, if truly he wants something serious from you. Here’s entering the distractions because he sees no difference between you and those girls in his fun list.
You shouldn’t be dating a guy who makes you feel insecure and jealous every now and then .
Healthy boundaries should be maintained to sustain a healthy relationship.
Men still in contact with their Exes.
Men who still entertain frequent calls and visits from an ex are one of those men you should avoid dating at all cost.
Memories are not just erased, sometimes, it could stirred by constant communications.
No matter their excuses, tell them you ain’t comfortable with it, if they can’t stop, you’re better off single than having to condone such disregards.
men who lie –
Another kind of men you should avoid are men who lie. It doesn’t matter if they are lying to save the relationship, a dishonest person can’t be trusted. He or she’s capable of betraying one’s trust.
A man who genuinely wants to be with you, will be open to you, even amid of mistakes, he will open up and apologize. Getting to find the truth by yourself when they’ve obviously lied to you could be more traumatizing.
Men who are not generous.
A man doesn’t have to be wealthy before gifting or taking care of the woman she loves.
If he hasn’t thought it wise to share the little one he has with you, he will still not share the big ones if it eventually comes.
You’re planning to marry a man but he has never deemed it fit to send you any little surprises even on your eventful days like birthday, that is a red flag, such kind of attitude will certainly be extended in marriage.
what you can’t tolerate in relationship shouldn’t be tolerated in marriage as well
