- Being in a committed relationship is the desire of every singles. Especially singles at a marriageable age. What is a committed relationship?
- A committed relationship is one in which both partners invests their time and emotions in other to ensure that things works out perfectly. In other words, nobody feels cheated. Since both are faithful in playing their roles and contributing their own parts towards being in a relationship.
Unfortunately, most relationship this days lacks committment. Everybody wants to experience a lasting relationship that could lead to the altar. Everyone desires to have a healthy relationship void of deception and heartache, but only few are willing to make sacrifice.
No wonder the rate of heartbreak is increasing alarmingly. No wonder the sarcastic statement. “some phone battery capacity lasts longer than some relationship. Funny right? But this is what is obtainable this days. It becomes disheartening when one is at the receiving end. You put every effort to make it work, without realizing that your significant other Is only with you for his/her own selfish motive. This is another form of Emotional manipulation.
- A committed relationship gives one the assurance that he/she a’int wasting his/her time with someone who doesn’t worth their time. One can actually be single while in relationship. It happens. You think you are in love with someone without knowing they don’t feel the same about you. Sometimes, they give you mixed signals, leaving you confused . You will try to opt out, but with their mixed signal. You will almost be tempted to withdraw from your decision. Only to discover that they were just leading you on, in other to satisfy their own selfish interest. At the end, you end up loosing both the assumed love and your esteem. This post is aimed at guiding you, so you wouldn’t fall prey to such deceit. It help you differentiate between a committed relationship and Non committed relationship.
Five signs you are in a committed relationship.
Feelings of security.
It erases any form of doubts and suspicion . You know you are in a committed relationship when you don’t have to freak out or get paranoid when you call them and they don’t pick up your calls. Or when you see them relating to another member of the Opposite sex. You won’t develop a negative thought, because the way they treat you shows they a’int cheating on you. You feel relaxed when with them. On the contrary, any relationship that gets you paranoid every now and then shows a high sense of non committment.
They respect your decision.
When you are with someone who truly cares about you, they would always respect your decision as long as you are happy with it. A man who sees the future in you will respect your decision to stay celibate. Because he a’int interested in his selfish motive. A committed relationship has more interest in the future than the present. So it is not always in a hurry to put his significant other in unnecessary pressures.
He plans with you
Since a committed relationship involves the future, he/she often talks about it. Though this is not a guarantee that they will definitely be in your future, however, someone who is seriously committed to you wouldn’t hesitate to include you in his/her future. They don’t just invite you over to have sex, or bore you with romantic words. But also to talk about your dreams, how you intend achieving your goals, and how he/she can offer you support/assistance if the need be. ofcourse someone who just want a night stand with you or fling with no strings attached, won’t be bothered about all these.
He/she will try as much as possible to avoid cheating on you. Commitment involves being emotionally entagled with one individual, whom you found worthy to express your love and feelings to. People who cheat hardly stay committed to one partner. Because their main objective is to have fun. When your partner shows a high level of fidelity. Chances are, they are commited to you and the relationship.
Make sacrifices when necessary.
- One of the greatest characteristic of commitment is sacrifice. no one would like to sacrifice in a place where his/her future a’int secured. If he/she makes certain sacrifice such as financial sacrifice, emotional sacrifice, doing certain things just to make you happy. Making out time out of their busy schedules to be with you. chances are they are committed to you, and desires to be included in your future.