Gaining resilience during times of difficulties has never been easy. As a matter of fact, it requires a lot of strength and determination.
But the question is, how can one develop such strength when undergoing several storms in life? How can one possibly determine to be strong in other to avoid falling into depression. Honestly, such decisions are easier said and quoted than done.
We don’t choose to be sad in life, no one prefers happiness over anxiety, no one prefers sound mind over depression. But unfortunately, we may find our selves in some situations where happiness seems to have eluded us.
Frustrations, and anxiety becomes the order of the day, no matter how you try to get over this feelings, they keep reoccurring because you have little or no control over them.
You wished you can regain your self confidence and happiness, but all seems like an illusion. The more you try, the more you see your self falling helplessly again. It is really like a struggle between your happiness, self esteem and reality.
Gaining resilience does not necessarily imply having your challenges solved or getting at the climax of your struggles.
But having the mental strength to overcome such challenges which might have probably led to depression.
Hence resilience can be defined as the mental ability to recover quickly from depression, illness or misfortune.
A state of being strong amidst of life struggles. A state of bouncing back to one’s initial mood and state of mind..
Here is an illustration. Imagine loosing something very crucial in life like a loved one, a juicy opportunity or a job. The feeling is better expressed than imagined. You’ve wept endlessly as if regaining them back depends on the amount of tears you shed.
But at a point, it dawned on you that no amount of tears could bring them back. You accepted your fate. But yet, you still can’t move on. Your self had let gone, but your emotions is unwilling to let go.
You are still battling with your mental ability. Trying to recover from the shock, but all to no avail. Inability to gain resilience is what usually leads to chronic anxiety otherwise known as depression.
Have you ever seen someone suffering from chronic depression? Most times, it is as a result of something that happened in the past. Normally, they ought to have left it in the past, but they were mentally weak to do so.
Gaining resilience. Some tips to guide you .
Think about your breathe
Amidst of all these challenges, you still breath, your mental strength should rely on the fact that your life was not gotten rid of by your predicament.
Life signifies hope, courage and confidence. Don’t assume there is nothing to live for, don’t prefer death to the life you are living presently no matter how horrible it might be, don’t contemplate suicide.
The owner of life never demanded your life because he has a plan and purpose for you which will definitely be accomplished in due course.
You were strong enough to conquer death. In Likewise manner, believe you will conquer your situation and challenges.
Learn to adapt at difficult times
One of the most vital method of gaining resilience at difficult times is learning how to adapt to various moments in life. Don’t assume that life is stable, always prepare yourself at any point in time..
One of the principle of life you ought to understand is that life may not really present you with what you desire at all times.
Life may not present you with a juicy offer, this is a natural phenomenon and reality. It is only your duty to make the best out of every situation.
This is also one of the best applicable principle of successful men who had accomplished their goals in life.
Let me tell you one good thing about some challenges we face in life, it builds our self esteem. You will have this great feelings and mindset that, ” if you can go through this, and come out victorious, then no situation can ever weigh you down. With such mindset, you’ve already prepared your mind to face any other challenge that might come your way in the future without having any fear.
Just like I said earlier, we don’t choose hardship over comfort, misfortune happens. That is life for you, but make up your mind to accept them with good fate. Acceptance does not imply being comfortable with it. But it helps to build your mental strength to recover quickly and avoid developing chronic depression.
Avoid Emotional materials.
Gaining resilience at difficult times can also be achieved by reading books that will inspire and boost your self esteem. Reading the biography of some great men like Abraham Lincoln Henry ford, Dr Ben Carson and so many others. who at some point in their life also had their own shares of hard times, but refused to quit or be weakened by such hurdles of life. Avoid staying around emotional people or being sympathized. Remember what you need now is not pity but mental strength.
Associate with others
Don’t assume that you are alone in that situation, don’t assume that no one cares. One of the best antidote towards overcoming some trying moments in life. Is by associating with like minded people.
Self isolation leads to chronic depression. You ought to avoid it at all cost.
You may never understand that your problem is the least till you come out of your shelf. You may not realize that there are so many others in your shoes yet unwilling to be conquered by their fears. Till you stop isolating yourself from others. Be positive,don’t give into negativity, avoid being discouraged by people.
This can only be possible when you stop associating yourself with negative minded people. You can scale through, you can overcome. Gaining resilience is still possible. It begins with you, when you Embrace positivity.