There are so many factors that ruins a relationship, but amongst them are the ones I termed ” petty factors”. You know why they are called petty factors?
Even though they seems like a big deal to us, they are almost insignificant.
We actually take them serious, but the truth is that sometimes, they absolutely means nothing, but our assumptions and self- imposed fear keeps our mind so locked up with so much fears and insecurity to the point of picking up a fight, nagging or initiating a dispute with our partners, over what seems not to be in existence.
One of my client has her own share of experience. She said and I quote ” I regret ever being too sensitive and insecure, to the point of loosing my 3years old relationship out of assumptions.
She narrated her experience on how she allowed a “mere” comment ruin what she worked so hard to build for years.
She saw a comment and presumed that her significant other was cheating on him. And without trying to clarify things, she confronted him in the most awful and irritating manner, which resulted in serious misunderstanding and a breach in communication between them. The issue lingered on, and every effort to hear his own side of the story proved abortive.
She became too nagging and insensitive, and when he couldn’t bear it any longer, he decided to call it quit.
She soon realized that she was only being paranoid over nothing, the comment which was the bone of contention was nothing but a harmless comment, but then it was already late.
She couldn’t reverse the damages which had been caused already. So many relationships which was expected to last for long has gone down the rail in a similar manner.
Quite number of them are being tagged as a result of incompatibility amongst couples.
But a times, it occurs as a result of petty factors, which ought to be neglected, but then has been made a major issue. Now lets take a summary of some of these factors and how it ruins relationship.
Factors that ruins relationship.
Lack of trust.
one of the factors that ruins a relationship and triggers some petty issue is lack of trust.
Insecurity a times, results when there is no trust in a relationship or when the trust has been breached due to one negative attitude from one or both parties.
In the case of no trust, this often occurs as a result of past experiences in relationships. Some People who has a bad relationship history are psychologically and emotionally traumatized.
Their fear is usually triggered by the fact that every relationship is bound to end in a similar way, just like their previous. Thus leading to lots of negative attitudes like jealousy in relationship and neediness. Such attitude can only be curbed by getting rid of the past and taking decisions to move on, despite what you’ve might been true.
While the former, can be avoided by being transparent and avoiding any issue which could lead to suspicions.
CLINGY NESS .
Being Clingy is one of the major factor that ruins a relationship. spending time with your partner/ significant other is good and should be always encouraged, as effective communication enhances a relationship. However, be cautious to know when you are beginning to abuse such positive attribute.
Being together doesn’t always have to mean not giving each other space. The best form of a relationship is that which both parties truly understands each other and knows where to draw a boundary in each other’s private life. Such relationship is majorly accompanied with trust. And that is what I tag “a healthy relationship”.
Respecting each other’s privacy is a sign of Trust and maturity. A relationship doesn’t always implies that he/she can relate with other members of the opposite sex.
Their life must not revolve around the relationship. You have to realize the fact that they still have goals and dreams to accomplish. Hence the need for a space sometimes. As a matter of fact, giving your significant other space attracts much value and affection, as absence they say makes the heart grow fonder.
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