Is he loosing interest in you? Perhaps you never saw this coming, you’ve planned your life together, he has introduced you to everyone that matters to him, he’s practically shown his commitment.
You both have gotten to the point that you never imagined that any thing can separate you again, the moment you realized that you are about to spend your forever with someone who has a significant role in your life, you just couldn’t wait for the forever to come.
However, just like is popularly said, life is unpredictable. The only constant thing in life is change, and it dawned on that you relationship is not an exception to this quote as you realized that your man is gradually loosing interest in you. The thought of starting this love journey all over again seems so overwhelming especially after building lots of good and unforgettable memories together .
You can’t help but remain optimistic with the assumption that they might be encountering some challenges and needed space to sort things out. However, while this thought might be a reality, it can as well be an illusion from your mind not to admit the truth that is sitting right before you. And so the question is, How can you know when he’s loosing interest and when he needed space to sort out his personal challenges.
subtle signs that he’s loosing interest in you.
1. Decline in communication
One of the obvious sign that a man is loosing interest in you is that he will no longer reach out to you, especially if there was effective communication in the relationship wt the initial stage. Unlike women, Men don’t tend to hide their feelings for so long. It is their nature to hunt for their prey, so they will always go for whoever they desire to be with.
When a man is so into you, he will do everything to get your attention. He will always create time out of his busy schedules for you, even when it seems that you are not interested in him, he will keep chasing and being optimistic that one day you will give him the attention that he’s been craving.
However, when reverse becomes the case, and you see his energy depreciating, while yours keeps getting stronger, it is a sign that he’s loosing interest in you. They might not spill it out verbally, but the signs are just enough to make you realize that you’re no longer in the list of his priority. If we was only having challenges or overwhelmed with work, and he still loves you, the least he can do is to explain things to you and ask for time to sort it out. Giving you the silent treatment is a sign that he doesn’t want the relationship anymore.
2. He rarely keeps to his promise.
You once had a sweet man who keeps to his words, he doesn’t just make promises without any plans of fulfilling them, it is either he cancels his schedules or makes it up to you. When he starts making promises which he ends up not fulfilling, even with constant reminders, this is an obvious that he might be loosing interest in you.
Sometimes, people make promises so as to exonerate themselves from further pressures especially pressures coming from someone they no longer want to associate with.
While talking to them on phone, they can seek for your permission to attend to something more vital and urgent, in the guise to end the conversation, with the promise that they will call back, which they end up not calling.
3. Emotional disconnection –
One of the practical signs that a man is into you is his body language when you’re together.
There’s this desire to cuddle you, put up romantic gestures with you, get intimate with you, that is the relationship is an intimate one.
When he begins to act so distant and cold when you’re together, it is a sign of loss of interest, do not entertain any other excuse which he might come up with at that particular time.
4. He terminates every future plans with you.
You once planned on the career to settle with, the number of kids you’re both going to breed, and the interesting places to visit during your honeymoon .
But all of a sudden, they are no longer bringing up such plans, but rather shying away from such discussion whenever you bring it up, it is a clear indication that their interest is waning off.
5. He finds fault in everything you do.
Most men are not vocal when it comes to breaking up, they lack the guts to confront you with the truth especially when you did nothing wrong. but their actions and body language towards you at that moment is enough to signal that the relationship is over.
They yell at any slightest provocation, get mood swing every now and then especially when you’re around them. Hardly apologize even when they’ve wronged, but rather would play the victim card by accusing you of being a nag and insecure. This is a strong sign that a man who is tired of the relationship.
6. He constantly reminds you of your imperfection.
You’ve heard that Tolerance is one of the basic characteristics of true love, and that true love is patient overlooks certain flaws.
This saying was applicable at the initial stage in your relationship. You are not perfect, yet they still chose to be with you, you had flaws, yet they condoned it. Sometimes, you exhibit a character drives them crazy, yet they chose to be patient with you.
However, when you begin to notice their complaints over your imperfections which they initially accepted as part of you, it is a clear indication that they want out.
7. silent treatment.
No message can equally be regarded as a message. When someone who constantly communicates with you decided to go mute leaving in a blank state without any explanation, chances are that they don’t want you anymore in their life.
Have you been ghosted by a partner, you’ve done everything possible to reach out but all to no avail. At first, you were curious to know if everything is fine with them.
You’ve inquired from their friends who confirmed that they were okay, their online presence had also cleared your doubts as they are constantly online uploading and reacting to comments and status.
There’s no other reason that could be attributed to their behavior aside loss of interest. Trying to seek for closure at this point may be futile.
They are acting as a coward because they are scared of your reaction when they confront you with the truth, so they thought that the best way to go about the break up without making you to feel much hurt is to ghost you. Perhaps you will later get the message and move on.
8. Inconsistency.
Inconsistency in a relationship is an indication that one party is already having doubts over the relationship, and then maybe considering to back off. Men unlike women are always decisive, they know what they want and are always eager to pursue it at all cost.
You will naturally feel the vibe and energy when a man is into you. He will invest so much time, energy and resources to ensure that relationship is successful.
However, when a man who was once committed to you begins to blow hot and cold, there’s every tendency that he’s loosing interest in you.
9.He flirts with other women.
When a man is no longer interested in you, he won’t be scared of loosing you and so flirting with other women will be much easier for him.
Men respect women they cherish so much. Even when they intend to cheat or flirt, they do that secretly without rubbing it on her face.
10. He gives priority to his friends more than you .
Initially, he could reschedule his plans to see you, he could could postpone his appointment with his friends if is not an urgent one to meet you. But now, trying to get his attention is like a rocket science.
He would rather hang out with the boys than plan a date with you. He suddenly became so busy and unattainable. This is one of the obvious sign that he’s loosing interest in you.
what you should you do about it?
While these are signs indicating that a man is loosing interest in you, on the contrary, there might still be exceptions.
There are several other reasons that could be attested to his sudden change of character such as life challenges and mental stress.
The first thing is to reach out to him . Don’t conclude yet. If the communication lines are still open.
Try to find out what the actual problem is. Have a heart to heart discussion and insist on knowing his stance towards the relationship. He might get to open when he finds out that you’re adamant. If he says he’s not willing to talk about it, tell him you understand, and give him some time and space, if after that he’s still not willing to open up, then it is time to move on.
In the case of being ghosted, I think there’s absolutely nothing much to do than to move on. It is automatically assumed that the relationship is over, because it is a sign of disrespect to shut down on someone without any reason. Don’t beg for attention. It will only amount to further frustration.
